I’ll not ramble too much about why I haven’t been active. If you follow my Instagram you know it’s been a mixture of no inspiration, body changes, and general sadness. BUT! I’m feeling more myself and part of that is due to being touched by the genuine kindness of other people.
Patricia from Bolero Beachwear reached out to me a couple of months ago after I’d made a particularly sad post, and said she wanted to send me one of her dresses. OUT OF THE KINDNESS OF HER HEART!!! She didn’t expect a review or anything, she purely wanted to spread some positivity and warmth because that’s just how she lives her life. She even let me pick whichever dress I wanted. I chose the Erica dress in plaid, because I’ve been on a big plaid/check kick lately and I could see myself actually wearing it.
I’ve tried wrap dresses and tops before but never been comfortable because having to size up for big boobs usually means the wrap is way too loose and one boob is on show all the time unless you use safety pins or wear a camisole underneath, which really just ruins the look. Patricia took my exact measurements and sent me the medium. It. Is. Perfect.
The wrap covers everything it needs to but you can also drop it down to show more cleavage if that’s your thing. The ruching detail under the bust nips in the waist so nicely and (if you worry about such things) flatters the stomach area.
It comes to just around my knee which is the perfect length for me as I’m not tall so any longer of a skirt makes me look too stumpy. The material is great quality, doesn’t wrinkle and is heavy enough that the skirt doesn’t blow up in the wind which is something I worry about a lot! There are also two different sashes included; one black and one red, so you can wear it differently every time and match different accessories etc to it.
I really do love this dress. I’ve had so many compliments at work when I wear it. I love walking around and swishing the skirt dramatically. Oh…and just one more thing.
I’ve been busy, distracted, a little uninspired and honestly, unimpressed with the world of large cup lingerie lately. Not having as much disposable income means I haven’t bought any new bras for myself in a while, but there also hasn’t been much I’ve actually wanted enough to spend money on.
I’m so bored with seeing the same old patterns and styles being done over and over again. The fun loving, colourful and quirky side of me has been longing for something that lingerie just doesn’t offer anymore. That was, until I saw that Wellfitting were offering a UNICORN PRINT BRA. I requested to be in their blogger programme (to write product reviews) because I truly wanted this bra, but it’s a little more expensive than I’m used to. The sizing is also slightly different, as Wellfitting have their bras made by Comexim, a Polish company which uses Polish sizing. I was worried I’d have to go back and forth for a while, but luckily Joanna from Wellfitting was an absolute treat to work with and Wellfitting actually give you 365 days to return something for free as long as it’s unworn and still in brand new condition!
I’m sort of continuing to put on weight, or like, bobbing up and down somewhere between a 30HH and 30J. I told Joanna what my current best fitting bra was at the time and she recommend 32L, explaining that their bands are quite firm. When this size arrived, I was really excited as, even though the cup was slightly small, I knew the shape was going to be amazing and the bra would be super comfy. I swapped it for a 32M (about a 32HH in U.K. sizing). I’ve worn it a few times since it arrived and here are my thoughts…
I. Love. It. I must’ve lost a little bit of weight since trying the 32L as the band felt a little looser, but not enough to bother me. The cups are lined with light foam, which worried me at first as I generally don’t do well with any moulding because it tends to push my boobs up so my softer, stretched skin spills over, no matter how many cup sizes I go up. However, I haven’t had this issue with the Unicorn bra, which is great because as the seams are also really faint, I’ll be able to wear it as a tshirt bra under tighter tops. The cups fit juuuust right.
Wellfitting describe the cleavage this bra gives as “Marie Antionette style”, and it’s true. This is great news for me, because if anyone knows my boob type and bra preferences, they’ll know I like bras that give me shape on top that I don’t naturally have!
I have the straps tightened quite a bit but I find most straps too long for my short shoulders. This doesn’t feel uncomfortable though, it’s just necessary for my shape!
I was also sent a sample of the matching pants, which are high waisted – my fave type of knickers! I received a medium, which fits perfectly. They come up to my natural waist and don’t cut into my butt awkwardly.
I’m really, really, really, happy with this bra. It’s extremely comfortable. Most importantly, the cute print makes me super happy and has got me feeling excited about lingerie again, and has lifted my mood a lot!
If you haven’t tried anything from Wellfitting, I’d highly recommend you do now! Don’t be put off by the different sizing, as the staff are extremely helpful and accommodating. Also, if you use this link you’ll get 10% off your purchase! So get on it!
I wrote last year about my love for Scantilly, Curvy Kate’s erotic line. I’ve bought many more sets from the range since then and my love hasn’t faded. Unfortunately though, in that time, my love for my body had started to dwindle as I’ve gone through some personal changes lately which have had a bit of an impact on my mental health. The amazing Grace (hehe) at Brastop got in touch with me a few weeks ago to see if I would like to review one of the new Scantilly sets. Of course I jumped at the chance, and Voodoo arrived at just the right time. Lately when I see myself, I have to get used to my appearance each time as it has changed recently. When I’m feeling really down, it’s harder o accept these changes and all my body positive wisdom is nowhere to be found. Voodoo arrived the day after quite a big episode of hating my body, and I was actually nervous to try it on. I thought I’d hate what I saw, and was worried about how I’d be able to write a review if I was feeling shitty and couldn’t take photos.
Oh, how wrong I was! This set was made for me. It really feels that way. It is ridiculously comfortably and just works so well with my shape. I was worried that the strappy briefs would cut into my hips – like everything does – and make me look like a sausage but I love them so much and think I look frickin hot!
I received the bra in a 30HH and the fit is spot on. It may look difficult to put on when you first see it, but it’s pretty easy to figure out which straps are supposed to go where, and then you just put your arms through like any old bra. The only issue I have is with the satin layer. The stitching isn’t quite right so it doesn’t match up with the cup underneath. This means the seam on the satin layer sort of comes to a point and looks like a huge nipple on the side of my boob. I tried tightening all the straps to see if it would smoothen out, but it didn’t work. I realised that pulling the satin down towards the wires made it sit better, so I might see if I can figure out a way to put a little stitch at the bottom without destroying the whole bra!
To be honest, it doesn’t bother me too much as the overall look of the bra makes up for it. I’ll just try and remember not to wear it under tight clothes! The straps look so sexy showing underneath a sheer blouse or lower cut top. I actually wore mine one day with a grungey plaid shirt and I really liked the contrast!
The knickers are soooooo soft and comfortable. Like I said above, I was worried about the fit and had asked Grace for advice about sizing. She said to go for the 12 as the main part sits low enough and you can tie the strap as loose or tight as you want. I initially though I should go for a 14, but I’m glad I listened to Grace as that definitely would’ve been too big. I tie the strap as tight as I can and it still feels loose enough, so I’d imagine if I had a 14 the strap would just slide down my belly! The back of the knickers are sheer and have no VPL, which is my favourite thing.
All in all, I’m extremely happy with this set. It was a welcome reminder to be kind to myself and to see the beauty in my body. I’d sort of forgotten how much lingerie has helped me in my bopo journey, but Voodoo helped me rediscover my passion and love for it. So thank you Scantilly, and thank you Brastop for making this lovefest possible!
The 4th of February marked one year since I started this blog, so I thought a little bit of reflection was in order. I’ve been thinking about things I’ve learned (about blogging and myself), opportunities I’ve gained, people I’ve met and other things. This is what I came up with:
I don’t love blogging I’m not really surprised by this, even though I love writing. I hate writing reviews though, and when I first started I thought that had to be my main focus. While I understand that lingerie reviews are extremely helpful, especially if you find a blogger a similar size and shape to you, it doesn’t have to be all I write. So maybe I’m still trying to find my “voice” or style as a lingerie blogger. There are so many things I can write about using lingerie as a base. There are also lots of things I’ve wanted to write about for a while but have been scared to because I don’t want to make readers feel awkward (namely any family members who may read), but this is my blog and I think I’m starting to realise that it’s a really good outlet for my opinions. And also I can do whateva I want. I don’t love the culture of blogging. It sort of feels like you have to say certain things and make certain friends and suck up to brands to get places. Obviously, again, I’m doing what I want and blogging isn’t my only thing. I don’t actually consider myself a “blogger”, in fact that identity comes really low on my list of things I’d label myself as. But at the beginning I felt a kind of pressure to talk a certain way and try and be part of some clique, but I found that when I stopped caring and actually started talking and writing like myself, I made more of a space for myself and seemed to resonate with more people. I don’t love blogging, but I do like helping people and I love talking about lingerie so I’m not going to stop. I’m just going to continue to figure out what works for me.
I’m so much more aware of my body I think this started a bit when I became a bra fitter and was able to fit myself, so I was always very conscious of what my boobs were at and it became a sort of non-toxic way to track any changes in my weight etc. But taking photos of myself in lingerie and constantly seeing those photos means I know what every angle of my body looks like, which has been equally a joy and a bit of a bummer. I’ve always had a warped view of what my body looks like, be it thinking I was slimmer when I was heavier and the reverse. As body positive and confident (most of the time) as I am, there’s always been an element of denial involved with how I view myself. Lately I’ve been denying the weight I’ve put on, and especially the fact that I’ve gone up at least two cup sizes. But, body positivity lets me decide the best way to make changes in my life, if any, and also because I don’t want to change my name to J Cup Chronicles, I will make changes. I don’t weigh myself because it makes me want to hide in a cave no matter what number is on the scales, but weight loss is an inevitable result of exercise, and I do want to take running up again mostly because it was the best natural high ever. Also, the 40+ bras I own in 30H are just too much of a legacy to get rid of. It’s not all bad though. Looking at endless photos of my body does make me appreciate it more, and notice things I like about it that I didn’t like before. It can actually be quite a nice self care practice if you’re in the right frame of mind for it.
Men don’t care about your relationship status/sexuality/boundaries/feelings etc etc etc And apparently posting photos of yourself in underwear on the internet makes you “fair game” – for trolling, unwanted dick pics and sexual comments, bodyshaming, slutshaming, pretty much anything negative can be justified by these creeps because the internet is “public domain” so we just have to “accept it”. Nah. Sorry. I can guarantee 98% of the people who do stuff like this would never do it away from the comfort and anonymity of their computers. Everything seems so much more acceptable when nobody really knows who you are. But it simply is not.
Men forcing their sexuality on us via the internet isn’t less acceptable than men groping women on public transport or catcalling in the street. It’s still harrassment. And I still don’t really know what to do about it. Sometimes I’ll call people out, name and shame and argue or whatever, especially if I’m in a good mood and don’t feel largely affected by it. Sometimes I really let it get to me and wonder if I should quit, because there will always, ALWAYS be men who do shit like this. (And really, when men are getting away with rape in offline world, they’re sure as frick gonna get away with online harassment but that’s a whole nother conversation). The easiest and quickest thing to do is just to block them and move on and secretly hope that they’ll realise and rethink their actions. But they won’t.
The odd time I’ll get a sincere apology (usually after I’ve contacted the perpetrator’s girlfriend/wife etc), and it does feel like progress, but a lot of the time it feels like a never ending uphill struggle. But it’s just another reason to keep doing this. On top of helping women find lingerie that fits and makes them feel good and promoting body positivity, I like to think I’m doing my small part in slowly but surely destroying rape culture.
My time and work is worthmoney Sometimes. The thing about this crazy social media age we’re living in is that bloggers are doing a heck of a lot of favours for brands, sometimes without realising. Brands get so much free publicity these days, and a lot of the time they will ask for your time for nothing in return. It’s okay to ask for something in return. Getting free stuff isn’t enough. What if it doesn’t fit/suit/feel comfortable or you just don’t like it? If you’d bought it with your money you’d return it. And brands that offer a 10% discount or free shipping in return for a review or shoutout are bullshit. Do not waste your precious time on them. That’s kinda why I hate reviews, and only do them for brands I actually like or really want to try.
I’ve met so many wonderful people There are people I haven’t even met in real life yet that I know because of this blog but I feel like I do know them. Being selected to become an ambassador for Leyah Shanks‘ The Body Confidence Revolution introduced me to a group of amazing bopo warriors, and they feel like a secret little family I get to have. I’ve made genuine connections with a lot of the other lingerie addicts on Instagram, and even got to meet some in person last year. I really believe that I’ll eventually meet so many more around the world one way or another. I met Nicole of MyMilla at the Moda tradeshow in August when I was just in the very early stages of setting up Ellen & Hick, and a few months later I got to model in her photoshoot and meet even more amazing people. I also did a super fun photo shoot with some friends in an abandoned swimming pool and a shoot in the forest with another wonderful friend!
by Dalyce Wilson
by Ciara McMullan for Vent Threads
Lingerie needs more gays
This will be short but sweet as I want to write something longer about this. Lingerie is still largely marketed in a way which targets straight women in relationships with men. Valentine’s Day shopping guides often tell men what to buy their women, and women are also told to buy this sexy set as a “gift for him”. Barf emoji. It’s 2017, we KNOW gay couples exist, but also can we get over the lingerie-is-for-sexy-times thing? ALSO, can we stop using lesbian imagery to sell lingerie? Everyone deserves representation but trivialising and over-sexualising our relationships to appeal to the male gaze is not how you do it. TBC.
Lingerie needs more fat women Please note, I regard “fat” as a descriptor only and not an insult. Because apparently plus-size in the fashion industry only refers to a very small bracket of women who are the “good kind” of curvy. Women with bigger than average boobs and small waists and bigger than average butts and thighs are not representing fat women, and using this body type predominantly in plus size campaigns just creates another standard women must strive for that not everybody can or wants to reach. Representation matters.
And of course, lingerie needs more women of colour Someone on twitter got me thinking about this by getting me to scroll through my lingerie newsfeed and count how many out of every ten photos featured a WOC. Sometimes it was 1/10. Once it was three. But mostly it’s 0/10. It’s great to see brands like Nubian Skin who are creating real nude shades for WOC, but they’ve had to do that because of the lack of representation and disinterest from other brands in doing anything about it themselves. REPRESENTATION. MATTERS.
The lingerie industry kinda sucks Like most things. But I still love it and wanna be a part of it and hope that my own lingerie business and my passion can be a part of the change.
I first found out about Rochella at Moda in February 2016. I was about to leave when I spotted a rail with gorgeous lingerie in the kind of prints I always fall in love with. Pretty, feminine pink and lilac and blue florals, as well as some cute polka dots. I was even more excited to find out it was a new full bust labelling, catering to back sizes 32- 42 and cups D-J (not all cup sizes available in all band sizes). Rochella is a luxury line, and at a higher price point I was hesitant to buy a set, especially as they don’t do 30 backs. But when I was offered a set to review, I was more than happy to accept.
Please note, I was sent this set free of charge and all opinions are my own. And boy, do I wish my opinions were different on this occasion. I was sent Gypsy in a 32GG – the “sister size” to my normal 30H. And while I’ve gone on and on about putting on weight and how that means things fit differently, I’m not entirely sure that’s a factor this time. I also received the matching suspender briefs in a 10/12. Let’s start with the details.
To look at, this set is so beautiful. The stretch satin fabric that makes up the majority of the cups is soft to the touch, and has a lovely silky shine to it. The colours are just gorgeous, and I think the contrast of soft pinks and black works really well.
The inside is lined with a lavender-ish polyester fabric, and there is a cute little gold pendant on the centre wires stamped with the signature “R”.
The briefs are nice and full, with sturdy detachable suspender straps included. The keyhole detail at the back of the briefs and the sheer mesh adds a little raciness to the daintiness of the floral print.
Onto the fit…Ugh I hate to give a negative review but I have to be honest for the benefit of both potential customers and the brand. Rochella is still a relatively new brand, and feedback like this is really important to take on as they continue to learn and develop their product. The first thing I thought when I put the bra on was just how loose it was. Obviously I’m used to wearing 30 bands, but even on the tightest hook this felt like it just wasn’t supportive enough. This would lead me to believe that the bands are not totally true to size and someone who does wear a 32 normally may also find it loose. I know straps aren’t meant to do much of the holding, but these also felt rather loose, and almost flimsy. They are a tad too narrow for a full bust bra, and felt uncomfortable after a few hours wear. They also constantly twisted in on themselves as I moved around doing normal things. This is probably because they’re too thin. You can see below that I have them tightened practically all the way. If I wore this bra a lot, they would stretch out super quick and become useless pretty fast.
The shape of the cups does little to redeem these issues. Because the bra is too loose and my bust is pulling it downwards, I get this weird sloping effect, combined with a pointy shape. Which is just not flattering at all, unfortunately.
It looks great front on, but you can still see that my boobs are sitting a bit too low and the sloping effect is still kind of noticeable.
Overall, the bra just doesn’t feel supportive enough. The fabric doesn’t seem sturdy enough to support bigger boobs, and I worry about how long it would be able to hold up. I hate saying all this, but I do think it’s important. If they ever make bras in a 30 band, I’d be very keen to try my true size to see if it is any better.
The briefs were more of a success. They are really soft and comfortable, and don’t cut into my squishy hips (a problem I have even if I size up 3 sizes). However, the fabric again felt slightly flimsy. When I first tried them on, they felt tight, and I didn’t think I’d get them on without ripping them. There is a tightness under the soft band which feels really dodgy everytime I put them on, and I always let out a sigh of relief once I get them on safely. I do love the shape though, and find them really flattering.
Again, I’m really disappointed with how this set turned out. But hopefully this feedback will be helpful and Rochella can take it on board as they go forward with their designs.
I’ve been wanting to do a few more “helpful” reviews – for example of brands I don’t already talk on and on about, and ones that I’ve actually wanted to try myself but couldn’t find many other reviews about. So it was pretty good timing when Brastop reached out to me and asked if I would be interested in trying something from their new season stock. I asked about a few things I hadn’t tried and Grace from Brastop very generously sent me the Viva set from Pour Moi in grey.
I’d had my eye on this colour for a while because grey is just so classy for lingerie (and I love grey, it’s very key). However I’d never had the chance to try any Pour Moi lingerie. I was familiar with their swimwear from working in Bravissimo – and I’m actually really obsessed with the Crazy Daisy bikini, which will be mine one day. So I was pretty excited about the chance to try this and review it for you all!
I received the bra in a 30H and the deep briefs in a 12. I originally asked for a 10 but Grace said the pants come up very small, and she was right. The 12 fits comfortably but they do look small for that size. I definitely don’t think I would’ve felt good in a 10, so if you are ordering pants, keep that in mind! I know “deep brief” and “high waisted” are not the same, but I wish they just would be. I love that these briefs come to my actual waist and not hit me awkwardly in the middle of my hips, but if they could just come up the tiniest bit higher. Just to completely cover my belly button. But I like them! They are still very comfortable and although they’re very plain, the colour and the mesh panelling makes them a little bit more special than a bland, everyday set.
The fit of the bra is pretty much perfect! I’ve mentioned a few times that I’ve put on a bit of weight recently and have been back and forth between a H and HH, so I was kinda nervous this would be too small. I think I’ve evened out back to my “normal” weight again though as my boobs aren’t as sore and heavy and I can wear most of my 30H bras again without yucky double boob. Thank goodness!
The Viva is described as a full cup, which I would have to disagree with because to me, a full cup comes up higher and shows very minimal or no cleavage. The wires also don’t come up as high in the middle as other, true full cup bras I own do. This is fine for me though, as full cup wires are generally too high for me and hit me in the wrong place, which can be pretty uncomfortable. The straps are set slightly wider like you would expect of a balconnet style. I love the ruching detail on the straps too, it’s another little touch that makes this bra slightly more dressy.
I know I always do it, but I just can’t help it – I compare the shape of everything to my Cleo bras. It’s just my preferred shape, and obviously has become my standard that I hold all other bras to! The wires are slightly wider on the Viva, so of course I’m not going to get the same projection, but I’m still pretty happy with the shape. It’s ever so slightly more east to west than I would prefer, but the cups also give a lovely round, natural shape. The sheer upper layer also gives it a little bit of racy-ness you wouldn’t get from many other of your everyday sets. I did find that I had to tighten the straps quite high to get the lift I wanted – but this is again something I find from most other brands bar Cleo. I think my shallowness on top and my short shoulders mean I find most straps too long anyway. It’s not uncomfortable to wear them as tight as I have them currently, however. And I definitely think this style would be great for other full on bottom breasts. The band felt true to size and was firm enough for my liking.
Overall, I am really happy I asked for this style. I love the colour so much, and this has already become a go-to bra. It’s really comfy to wear and I do like the shape under clothes. The Viva full cup comes in a range of other colours, and the collection also offers a longline up to a G cup, as well as a padded plunge up to an F cup, and a suspender belt in selected colours. I can see this becoming a firm favourite, and I’m definitely interested in adding some of the other colours and suspender belts to my collection!
Trigger warning: much of the language used in this post refers largely to cisgender women’s bodies. While I completely support and am an ally to the transgender and non-binary members of my community, I can only speak from my experiences as a cisgender woman.
We all know how the media and societal beauty standards impact on how we see ourselves, and the way we choose to present ourselves to others. It impacts what we buy, what we wear, and can really get right into our brains until we start to truly believe we aren’t good enough as we are without buying into all the diet crap, cosmetics, clothes, fitness regimes etc etc. I had the idea to write this post after a conversation I had with a friend about this sort of thing. We were talking about things we thought weren’t normal about bodies, and how much it can control you. She said she always thought until very recently that nipple hair wasn’t supposed to be a thing on women’s bodies, and she always felt very self conscious about it. So, first on the list of things that are absolutely, definitely normal about women’s bodies is nipple hair!
In fact, hair in general is normal. We are mammals, after all. Yeah, some people have more than others, and women especially are taught to believe that we should get rid of all our body hair so we can appear visually appealing to men (and not at all like a baby alien). Whatever you choose to do with it is completely up to you, as long as you’re happy. But just remember, it’s there for a reason and if you decide to let it grow wild and free, that’s totally okay. Body hair that is normal includes:
1) Armpit hair
2) Leg hair
3) Butt hair – on the outside and in the crack
4) Stomach hair – women can have happy trails too
5) Chest hair – not just limited to nipples!
6)Arm hair – this is something I used to be embarrassed about because I have such dark hair, which is more noticeable on my arms and hands
7) Hand hair – we all have it, lil hairy hands and knuckles
8) Pubic hair – gotta stop censoring this and acting like it’s disgusting and wrong
9) Foot hair – which extends to yer toes too!
10) Back hair
11) Facial hair – something which is very embarrassing for a lot of women, cuz god forbid you don’t look “feminine” enough. I have this one chin hair that always seems to appear over night. It’s jet black and grows to like an inch long. I don’t know who it thinks it is or where it comes from, but it’s normal too.
sometimes pubes are visible, what ya gonna do?
My cute arm hair
And my cute hand hair
We are not symmetrical. Our faces and bodies are naturally asymmetrical, because that’s just how it is. I have a slight underbite and crooked teeth despite having had braces. I also have wonky eyes if you really pay attention, but it doesn’t affect my life in any way.
Fat, and all the different ways it sits on our bodies, is also totally normal. Belly rolls, back rolls, cellulite. They are ALL FINE. Try to remember that lots of tiny, insignificant things that are seen as flaws, are photoshopped out of ads and other photos. Even the models in all the ads we’re bombarded with daily don’t look like models. I’ve seen them on the catwalk, and they do actually have cellulite and jiggly bits. And they’re made to feel just as bad about it as we are.
Stretch marks are meant to happen, whether or not we’ve been pregnant. They are a sign that our body went through something, and adapted to accommodate the changes. The opposite of stretch marks is not smooth skin, it’s ripped skin. Your body is protecting you all the time. Stretch marks are frickin fascinating and beautiful, and EVERYONE has them.
Boobs come in so many shapes and sizes, just like people, and yet we’re still led to believe that one very specific boob type is the “perfect” type. It’s extremely rare that they’re actually round and perky, no matter the age or weight or circumstances of the person they belong to. Believe me, as a bra fitter I’ve seen all the types of boobs you could imagine. They are as unique as finger prints, and all are good and normal. On the subject of boobs, may I remind you that nipples are also completely normal. There’s nothing sexual about any part of a boob, whether or not we’re forced to hide or censor the nipple in photos and in life. Nipples again are just as varied in size, colour, shape and placement. Yours are fine the way they are.
The last thing I want to mention real quick is the dReAdeD vulva. Learn your anatomy, cuz the vagina is on the inside and you can’t see it from looking at a woman in her underpants unless something has gone very, very wrong. Some women have what has been termed a FUPA, or fat upper pubic area. Ya know the way Cosmo magazine has solutions to all your gross, fat body problems. They even have ways to reduce the size of your FUPA. JESUS CHRIST. Please don’t think this is okay. Please don’t feel like the size of your vulva somehow dictates your worth as a person. PLEASE DON’T READ THESE MAGAZINES. The size of you FUPA and the length of your labia are both perfectly normal, and if you’re worried about what someone you’re dating might think when they see it, chances are all they’re thinking is how excited they are to see it. There is nothing wrong with it. Please leave it alone.
A troll once tried to hurt my feelings by telling me I have a FUPA – but I already knew that so…?
There are so many other things about your body that are normal. Freckles, moles, scars, birthmarks. Try to see the beauty in your individuality and reject the narrow beauty standards we’re expected to live up to.